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Share Your World 16

This is week 16 for Cee’s Share Your World where each week Cee poses 4 or 5 questions for us to get to know each other better. I’ve missed a couple of weeks, couldn’t be avoided, but absolutely wanted to participate this week so you (and Cee) would know I haven’t abandoned it, just doing it when I can.

If you’d like to participate or just see what answers others have given, click on the logo or the link above it and check it out. The more, the merrier!

The questions for this week:

  1. If you had a choice, which would be your preference: salt water beaches, fresh water lakes, hot tub, or desert?
  2. What book do you think everyone should read and why?
  3. What’s your favorite way to wake up and what’s the first thing you do?
  4. What do you do to relax?

My Answers:

If you had a choice, which would be your preference: salt water beaches, fresh water lakes, hot tub, or desert? 

You know, I really had to think about this. I live near a fresh water lake and love it, there are pebble and rock beaches instead of sand, and the wind causes mild waves to wash up on the shore. Sorry I don’t have a picture, but I don’t get out that often anymore. My truest desire though, would have to be salt water beaches. I’ve always loved the ocean, the smell of salt water beaches, the sand beneath my feet. I think if I had a choice, I’d choose that. Though I’d probably want it to be on a private island so there wouldn’^t be any crowds of people there, lol. But even so, if I’ll honest I have to say my aging body would probably prefer a hot tub!

What book do you think everyone should read and why?

Illusions, by Richard Bach. He’s the one who wrote Jonathon Livingston Seagull. Illusions is perhaps less well known, but is nonetheless thought provoking and soul enriching. Two of my favorite lines from the book:

Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.
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You teach best what you most need to learn.”

What’s your favorite way to wake up and what’s the first thing you do?

My favorite way to wake up is naturally, with the sun, and my mind still halfway inside a dream, drawing it with me or leaving it behind as I slide easily into my morning. Unfortunately, while it may work sometimes, and I often enough do wake around the same time, on occasion I’ve slept through the morning and awakened only around 2 in the afternoon! My daughter now knows to wake me if I’m not up before she leaves. I hate alarm clocks. As for the first thing I do, it’s turn on my computer, grab a cup of Instant Human, and sit back comfortably to read my mail. Isn’t that what we all do? 😉

What do you do to relax?

For relaxing, I read or listen to an audiobook. I also like to play what I call “desktop” games – card games and puzzle games, not online, but against the AI of the game. One of my favorites is Canasta. It’s in many ways less high-tech, more about the game, and the fun part is that there is a computer AI voice that talks to me and addresses me by name, things like, “Hello Judee, welcome back.” and “Goodbye Judee, come back soon.” and of course gameplay in between. I know it’s silly, but it’s just a nice little touch. Once I’m actually in bed, I usually just read until I am sleepy.

So, those are my answers. I have a lot of reading to catch up on, some writing challenges too, so please understand if I don’t get to yours immediately, but I do want to see what others have written so will be popping in and out for that throughout the week.

Cee, thanks again for the fun!

Re-inventing the past?

I read something recently where it was suggested that people who have problems based on their past history, simply re-invent the past. By that, the idea was to take a painful memory, and change it, replay it over and over in your head in a new happier version. Apparently, this will take the edge off the sting from the past and you will feel better in general.

Now, I admit it sounded like maybe it could work. And I imagine for people who have suffered abuse or other terrible events that are holding them back from progressing in life, perhaps it could be a good thing. But… re-inventing the past? Where does it stop? Do we tell out children, if you’re sad because Janie said something mean to you, just pretend she gave you a compliment and it will all go away?

I’m not so much challenging the idea as wondering what others think about it. Do you think it could be a useful tool for trauma victims? Would it even work in their case, when the triggering event is so firmly rooted in their memory?

What about the small stuff? Small, but persistent. Imagine that as a boy or girl of 16 you missed the Prom, and all your friends attended but you. And what if you found yourself 10 years later, still shy, still feeling bad about yourself, low self esteem, all because of that one event? So, someone tells you, hey, you can just re-invent the past. So you do. You daydream that you did go to the prom, with an old crush of yours, and you imagine it in all detail, and re-live it over and over in your imagination. And what if, doing that, you find yourself more open to others, feeling better about yourself?

Is that okay? I’m really questioning this, because I honestly don’t know.

Personally, I want to keep all of my memories just as they are. But I also realize that we humans, in general, already do some re-inventing, some of it conscious, some not.

I once wrote a story, supposedly fiction, about the one most painful experience I had ever encountered in my life. And I changed the ending – it was fiction, after all. I changed it to what I would have wanted it to be, instead of what it was. Still terribly painful, but with a resolution of sorts. I didn’t pretend to myself that it had actually happened that way, but writing that story was a catharsis for me. The old pain didn’t so much as lessen as it was my way of resolving an inner sorrow of how things had been handled by me. I know the truth of the past, but this re-invention helped me abundantly, without changing the past – but mainly because I knew it was fiction. I can’t even imagine trying to convince myself that things happened that way. The idea of doing so is almost like… blasphemy. I own that past, it is part of me, and if in retrospect I might have chosen to do it differently, I didn’t do so at the time. I need to remember the truth, to own it, because it is my moment, and it’s honest.

So… what about when we re-invent the past unconsciously?  Do you realize that memories can change with time? Sometimes it’s in little ways, other times it can be in big ways. We remember the events of our lives, some more clearly than others, because they are implanted into our brain cells – but the more we replay them, do they become more implanted? Or does our changing perspective sometimes change the memories, ever so slightly, so that you don’t really realize it – and the next time a little bit more, and so on.

Think of the whispering game where there are a line of people, one gets a message, then whispers it into the ear of the next one, and so on, so that at the end of the line, the message is often very different.

I’ve seen this happen. And I have proof that it does – well, not scientific proof, just my own experience. I’ve kept written journals since I was 15, often filled with details of events past. I don’t read them. I have occasionally skimmed them to find recorded dreams, but in general I am not one to go back and read my past – though I imagine it would be interesting one day.

However – on more than one occasion, something or other would trigger a memory, and take me back to a past moment – usually something long past, as in 20 or 30 years ago. I would daydream about it a bit, remembering what happened, mostly good memories. I’m sure it happens to you from time to time. Well, one day I decided to check up on a memory.

The memory itself doesn’t matter, just that it was pleasant and very clear, and I saw myself in a particular way, handling a situation with a certain amount of wisdom for my then young age. I decided to check it out, as I knew it was something I would have recorded in my journal. I knew the approximate timing of it and I found the entry in one of my notebooks. Imagine my surprise when I actually read it. Not only was I not as wise and adult as I remembered, but I had recorded a completely different perspective on the whole situation.The details were more or less the same, but the “me” I remembered was not.

So after that, I occasionally checked back on my memories. Some of them were exact, some not. There didn’t seem to be a specific element that I could spot as to why certain memories were different, and others not, nothing tieing them in together. All I know is that our memory does play tricks on us. We do, ourselves, in the most natural way, re-invent the past.

So, back to the original question – is it a good thing, a bad thing or simply one of those “each person’s choice” things, to want to consciously re-invent the past? If we do it already to a degree, why not do it as a kind of self therapy? I don’t have an answer, and I think it really is something that would have to be a personal choice. Still, something in me finds it worrisome, that we could so easily dismiss the lessons of our past. Because aren’t they just as much what make us who we are today as the easy times? Perhaps even moreso.

Personally, I wouldn’t change a moment. And I’ve had some painful ones, believe me – if you’re my age or near it, you will have too. No one gets through life unscathed, but I’m proud of  my scars, because they are part of what forged me. Part of who I am.

Thoughts, anyone?

Share Your World 13

It’s week 13 for Cee’s Share Your World questions. Click the link to see what Cee and others have answered this week, and why not give it a try yourself? It’s a great way to get to know your fellow bloggers.

This week’s questions are:

  1. What is your favorite month of the year?
  2. What is something you learned in the last week?
  3. What color looks best on you?
  4. If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

My answers:

What is your favorite month of the year?   September, because the leaves are just beginning to turn, and Autumn is in the air, you can both smell it and feel it.  I love Springtime, too, but there is just something special about Autumn, especially the colors, and the cool after a hot summer.

What is something you learned in the last week?   That I really can’t “do it all” and, more important, I don’t have to do it all. Sometimes I need a reminder that I have all the time in the world, if only I follow one simple idea – be here now.  Let inspiration come not from something on a to-do list, but from the spark of an idea, the whisper from a muse, or just wanting to be in touch with someone. It all gets done, in the rightness of time. And if it doesn’t get done, there will still be new inspirations and new days, new moments, in those future moments of being right here and right now.

What color looks best on you?   I have no idea. I know I mostly wear faded jeans and blues and greens and purples for t-shirts or pullovers, depending on the season – most of them are kind of faded too. I guess i like colors that don’t outshine me, because I’ve faded quite a bit with age, too – hair getting more grey, etc. Bright colors just don’t seem to fit.

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?   That’s a tough one.  I think I would like a power of Awakening. One that would give me the ability to help people see clearly, to look inside and realize what it is they want or don’t want by seeing their own truth. So many people live their lives without questioning, just doing whatever they do because they’ve been told it’s best. And while there is nothing wrong with that, as it does take all kinds, I’d still like to help a few people “wake up” and at least think about what it is they want in life.

Okay, those are my answers. I hope to find some time to check out some of the others before week 14 gets here. 😉

Thanks to all who take the time to read,

-Judee

Share Your World 12

Another Share Your World, hosted by Cee. This is week 12 for her, I think maybe the third one for me. It may be the longest one, too, because the first question is one that stimulated me to go off hunting, hope you don’t mind all the vids, but hey, music is always great to share, right? To see how Cee and others have respond to this week’s questions, just click on the image below.

This week’s questions:

  1. What songs are included on the soundtrack to your life?
  2. What is your favorite time of day?
  3. What is your favorite part of the town/city you live in.  And what City and Country do you live?
  4. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

My answers:

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What songs are included on the soundtrack to your life?

Okay, this may seem silly, but I’ve included a couple of children’s songs I used to listen to as a child, because I think sometimes music can influence children, inspire them, and make them pay attention to things they might not otherwise notice. Or, maybe they notice and remember certain music because it reflects something within them? Either way, here are two of my very first 45 rpm songs –

Shake Me I Rattle  (Cristy Lane)
(…)
They were closing up the toy shop
as I hurried through the door
just in time to buy the dolly
that her heart was longing for

It’s a story of what these days we would call a Random Act of Kindness. It was my first exposure to the concept of heartfelt giving, and it has stayed with me all my life.

The second of my favorite 45’s as a child is the following song – I couldn’t find the original version, but this one is sweetly presented, and closest to the original in terms of feelings evoked.

Sing a Rainbow  (??)
Red and yellow and pink and green
purple and orange and blue
I can sing a rainbow
Sing a rainbow
Sing a rainbow too.
Listen with your eyes
Listen with your eyes
and sing everything you see
You can sing a rainbow
sing a rainbow
sing along with me.

The idea of listening with your eyes, and singing a rainbow, had an impact on my way of looking at the world, the mere idea of hearing colors, that the senses could be intertwined so easily. Childhood was magical for me, and this was just a part of the magic.

Moving on into the teen years, my theme song,

Hey Jude (The Beatles)
Hey Jude, don’t make it bad,
take a sad song and make it better.
Remember to let her into your heart,
then you can start to make it better.

There are so many memories attached to that one song, I can’t even begin to tell them, just to say, it was my “coming of age” song, and it is a song that always stayed with me, even to this day.

Three down, three to go –

Bridge over Troubled Water  (Simon and Garfunkle)
When you’re weary, feeling small,
when tears are in your eyes,
I will dry them all. I’m on your side.
When times get rough,
and friends just can’t be found,
like a bridge over troubled water,
I will lay me down.

This is all I’ve ever wanted out of life, to help others, be their bridge and take them past their pain. It is a strong theme in my life.

Let it Be  (The Beatles)
Speaking words of wisdom,
“Let it Be.”
Whisper words of wisdom,
“Let it Be.”
There will be an answer
“Let it be.”
Shine until tomorrow
“Let it be.”

What else is there to say? Oh, yes, the other questions…

What is your favorite time of day?  Morning and late at night  Morning because it’s when my energy levels are highest, late at night because it’s when I sit back, relax and either read or listen to audiobooks.

What is your favorite part of the town/city you live in.  And what City and Country do you live? That’s hard to answer because the town I live in is hardly big enough to call a town, at least in terms of what most people in the US would imagine. There isn’t much here, but I do have a view, of Lake Geneva. Check my blog a round tuit for the latest Sunday Post and you’ll see a picture taken from my study window. I live in Switzerland, a long way from Texas where I grew up. This year will make half of my life that I am here.

If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?  Listening. I’m a good listener, and I don’t judge people, perhaps that’s why people tend to find me to talk to when they have something troubling them. I never tell them what to do, I just give them my perspective, and ask questions to make them think, to reflect on what it is they really want in a given situation.

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Again, thank you Cee, for some stimulating questions. And for those of you who managed to read this far, thanks for reading and visiting.

— Judee

Share Your World 11

It’s another week, and another Share Your World post, thanks to Cee for hosting this and coming up with questions to ask. It’s a nice way to get to know your fellow bloggers.

If you would like to see what Cee and other participants have shared on their blogs, just click the emblem above and it should take you there. Here are the questions and my responses:

What’s your least favorite mode of transportation?   I’d have to say airplane, I just don’t like how crowded they are, sitting shoulder to shoulder with strangers and even sharing arm rests.

Are you a cat, dog, goat or prefer the zoo person?  I’ve had dogs all my life. This is the first time in 50 years I’ve been without a pet. I love dogs, and always will. But I have to be honest and say that if I weren’t allergic, I’d probably have been a cat person all along. I really love watching cats, and see they too have their own unique personalities, just as dogs do, but I simply can’t touch them or live in a house where they live. Always wished I could.

What really makes my heart sing?  My daughters. Watching them become adults, being there for them, feeling proud of their growth and independence. Oh and a really sappy romantic comedy can do it too. I love to live vicariously.

What word or words are fun for you to say?  Hmm… evermore… sweetheart… serendipityjuxtapositions oh, and that old favorite – antidisestablismentarianism.

Hope everyone is having fun. I’ll be coming around to read.

Share Your World 10

Tis is week 10 at Cee’s place, week 2 for me with this great getting to know you weekly theme. This week there are five questions:

  1. Can you change a car tire?
  2. Are you a collector of anything?
  3. If you HAD to change your name, what would you change it to?
  4. What am I wearing right now?
  5. If you could be a tree or plant, what would you be?

To see what Cee and others have answered, and to participate yourself, just click on the banner below and off you go.

But first, maybe you want to check out my answers here:

Can you change a car tire?  Nope. I wouldn’t even know how to begin, and physically I’m probably too weak to do it anyway, so I guess I’d have to call someone to help. Hopefully that won’t be a problem. *knocks on a bunch of wood*

Are you a collector of anything?  Small figurines of angels, fae, butterflies, anything with wings – I even have a winged dragon or two. I have winged creatures in crystal, some in pewter, wood, ceramic, stained glass, so many different kinds. When I used to wear rings and necklaces, I always chose butterflies. Wings, wings, let my thoughts fly.

If you HAD to change your name, what would you change it to?  Well, actually, I did change my name, sort of. My first name is Judy, my middle name is Dee, and sometime around 15 to 20 years ago I changed it to Judee. It just felt right. I am Judee, Judee is me. I really can’t imagine myself with a different name, but if I HAD to, I guess I would choose Elise.

What am I wearing right now?  Loose sports pants and a comfy long sleeve top – all grey, like a reflection of the sky outside. Sometimes I like color, but on quiet days I like to be toned down. Grey is comfort. Grey is quiet, and peaceful.

If you could be a tree or plant, what would you be?  Aloe Vera. Filled with healing gel, ready to soothe.

have a great week!